6.9.2010 – In Honor of June Ninth (Dually Noted):
When I say I have the most divergent amalgamation of friends I mean that these folks are diverse. Some of the conversations we have couldn’t be scripted. Try it, I dare you. The following is a IM conversation I had with a friend of mine yesterday. Let me describe her so as to Expose the Innocent. She’s smarter, prettier, sexier, and cooler than anyone you’ve ever met. Pssst, I just said that because I know she’s going to read this. However, every time we go out together she definitely gets more attention than me. Anyway the conversations goes as follows :
11:41:17 AM 5 ***** Chick: question
11:41:28 AM N-Visible Man: shoot
11:41:43 AM 5 ***** Chick: What would u think of a chick that let you give her head but she didn’t mess with you?
11:41:57 AM N-Visible Man: depends…
11:42:00 AM 5 ***** Chick: I mean y’all been talking for about 2 weeks
11:42:29 AM N-Visible Man: 1) chicks don’t have head… so if you talking about me going down on her
11:42:40 AM N-Visible Man: 2) if that’s what i wanted to do… that’s what it is…
11:42:56 AM 5 ***** Chick: ok…how soon u think it is for the chick to give it up…if she wants to be a challenge and knows that he likes a challenge
11:43:23 AM N-Visible Man: fuck challenges… if you know u gonna give it to me… give it up NOW
11:43:25 AM N-Visible Man: i mean
11:43:27 AM N-Visible Man: last night
11:43:33 AM N-Visible Man: i mean when i first met you
11:43:35 AM 5 ***** Chick: lol
11:43:41 AM 5 ***** Chick: I feel u
11:43:56 AM 5 ***** Chick: lol
11:45:06 AM 5 ***** Chick: but she has the upper hand right now, right?
11:45:14 AM N-Visible Man: nope
11:45:28 AM 5 ***** Chick: why not?
11:45:45 AM N-Visible Man: a woman ain’t ever got the upper hand on me
11:46:18 AM 5 ***** Chick: we aint talking about u…then again this person might be like u…very confident
11:46:48 AM N-Visible Man: i mean i dunno if i’m understanding your situation all the way break it down
11:47:01 AM N-Visible Man: some nigga wants to eat you out…
11:47:04 AM N-Visible Man: right?
11:47:26 AM 5 ***** Chick: long story short..I’m in between classes
11:48:16 AM 5 ***** Chick: do you remember when I went to Monte Carlo a couple weeks and asked you to come with me?
11:48:20 AM N-Visible Man: Yeah, my bad but you understand why
11:48:30 AM 5***** Chick: I’m still mad at you for that but when I get there, dude just straight snatched me up…saying how he got dough..long story, we spent last two nights together..I prolly blew at least 15 k of his dough gambling by mywelf
11:48:33 AM N-Visible Man: dumb ass
11:48:38 AM N-Visible Man: he’s nothing like me
11:48:46 AM 5 ***** Chick: Like that’s how he chose to get my attention
11:48:50 AM N-Visible Man: right
11:48:51 AM 5 ***** Chick: lol
11:48:53 AM N-Visible Man: ASS
11:49:00 AM N-Visible Man: go head
11:49:00 AM 5 ***** Chick: So we been talking since then
11:49:01 AM N-Visible Man: sorry
11:49:27 AM 5 ***** Chick: I go to his crib last Saturday…and he ate it…I didn’t let him get it even though he tried
11:49:42 AM N-Visible Man: he from the States?
11:49:54 AM 5 ***** Chick: Yeah he lives near you in DMV
11:50:00 AM N-Visible Man: oh… damn…
11:50:08 AM N-Visible Man: u still with boyfriend right?
11:50:23 AM 5 ***** Chick: yeah
11:50:24 AM 5 ***** Chick: Lol
11:50:29 AM N-Visible Man: stay away from it…
11:50:33 AM 5 ***** Chick: ole boy knows this
11:50:35 AM 5 ***** Chick: Ok
11:50:40 AM 5 ***** Chick: I feel that way too
11:50:50 AM 5 ***** Chick: He used to mess with a friend of mine too
11:50:56 AM 5 ***** Chick: yeah but he gonna catch feelings and if you ain’t let him beat he may cause trouble for you
11:50:58 AM 5 ***** Chick: Gotta go back to class..brb
11:51:01 AM N-Visible Man: aight
1:01:43 PM 5 ***** Chick: So what were u saying about him catching feelings and me not letting him beat? He just told me that on the phone. CUT OFF!!!
1:01:59 PM N-Visible Man: Told ya! 😉
What do you think ladies and gents? A couple of rules: I don’t judge so you don’t judge on here. Deal with the situation as presented and don’t read more into what was said that is written, the convo is cut and paste and she trusted me enough to allow me to put our entire conversation out there. Speak on it:
The N-Visible Man
N-Visible Manifesto 
I loved how you clarified the use of “head” lmao! But seriously, I think with women sometimes we think we can act in the same manner as a man. And a lot of women feel like that…just based off of conversations I’ve had with my girls. Almost every chick I know swears by that movie “Two Can Play That Game” and who has the upper hand, when should you give it up, make hime wait, cook or not to cook etc. All of these self-help books on dating, while popular, quite frankly get on my damn nerves! I think my best advice would be never trust a man who has to “talk” about how much dough he has (it’s not impressive especially when you have your own and have been exposed to nice things and secondly, the nigga is prolly lying anyways…and it’s not sexy. Women like mystery if you got dough like that shut up and surprise me with a nice gift or trip) That brings me to my second point never accept gifts from a man who you just met. If you decide to sleep with him, then shit accept every gift offered. That’s just a rule of thumb that works for me 😉
I guess I’m wondering whether your homegirl is satisfied w/ what she has at home; or alternatively, what she got out of the situation w/ baller side-piece?
I totally understand being true to yourself & living in the moment. However, I just hope your girl isn’t compensating or seeking thrills, excitement & good times elsewhere, because her old man ain’t doin what he used to do, so to speak. If this is the case, she owes it to herself to figure out what she needs to be happy & whole on her terms– not b/c another isn’t giving her what she wants or expects, so she seeks it elsewhere & in other forms (obviously, this has nothing to do w/ being w/ a man, or expecting that a man’s gonna complete you). I guess this scenario also supports my opinion that humans aren’t really meant to be with the same person 4 life; and as sexual beings, alternative means [persons] of stimulation seem a bit more natural.
With that said, quality vs quanity is paramount. I mean, I don’t really believe that her side-piece was catching feelings. Instead, it kinda seems like he was trying to smash and close off that possibility, similarly like he did w/ your homegirl’s friend. I could see a simple guy thinking that putting his face in the place first, would have a woman be wide-open to fu*k…But, I’m sure that’s a lesson, he won’t 4get (if he really was simple to begin with and thought that way), lol!
N-Visible, I totally agree w/ you on the issue of when is it a good time to put out. As a woman, I think that placing timetables on when to have sex, creates the inherent risk of making the act become more like a fantasy in your own head or a forced encounter. When instead, sex is something that should be natural, easy breezy and on your own terms…
Lastly– I dunno, but personally, I’m also wondering about all the other uses a student could do w/ the 15k.. dayum.